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    • Youth Mental Health
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Ikunde means "Love Yourself"

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Founded by Stella Umutoni

Founded by a coach with a background in social work, psychotherapy-informed trauma care, and professional coaching, Ikunde operates at the intersection of the nervous system, emotional healing, and relational decision-making. Ikunde focuses on mental wellness and personal development for women who often find themselves overgiving, shrinking to be chosen, or repeating patterns with emotionally unavailable partners. Through our relationship coaching, we help women build grounded self-worth, regulate attachment, and create peaceful, values-aligned relationships. Ikunde is for women who are ready to move beyond performing strength and embrace stability, respect, and real partnership.

About Stella

Ikunde.Life is here to help with:

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Relationship Struggles

Trauma Recovery/Mindset Shift

Trauma Recovery/Mindset Shift

Understand your patterns to enhance your mental wellness. Heal emotional wounds with trauma-informed approaches. Build safer, healthier connections through personal development and relationship coaching.

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Trauma Recovery/Mindset Shift

Trauma Recovery/Mindset Shift

Trauma Recovery/Mindset Shift

Transition from survival mode to a state of grounded self-trust through trauma-informed healing, a crucial aspect of mental wellness and personal development. Embrace the guidance of a relationship coach or engage in relationship coaching to support your journey.

Find Balance
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Gen Z Mental Health

Trauma Recovery/Mindset Shift

Gen Z Mental Health

Modern emotional support for a generation navigating pressure, identity, and uncertainty through a focus on mental wellness, personal development, and trauma-informed practices with the guidance of a relationship coach or relationship coaching.

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Hear from the clients...

Catherine (Chicago)

Catherine (Chicago)

Catherine (Chicago)

I began my journey with Stella during one of the most destabilizing chapters of my life — my divorce. I required more than just encouragement; I needed clarity, emotional grounding, and the ability to maintain stability for my children amid the chaos. Through her expertise as a relationship coach, Stella offered me invaluable support that was both trauma informed and focused on my mental wellness, guiding me towards personal development during this challenging time.

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Catherine (Chicago)

Catherine (Chicago)

As my marriage was ending, I found myself overwhelmed by fear, responsibility, and emotional exhaustion. In Stella, I discovered not just a relationship coach, but a source of support that emphasized mental wellness and personal development. Her precision, steadiness, and trauma-informed approach provided me with the emotional intelligence I needed to navigate that challenging season.

Loraine (Houston)

Catherine (Chicago)

Charity (Brussels)

Stella helped me transition from feeling stagnant to building my own company with clarity and confidence. Through her trauma-informed relationship coaching, I now embrace personal development and lead from alignment instead of fear, enhancing my overall mental wellness.

Charity (Brussels)

Mark (Financial Services)

Charity (Brussels)

Stella guided me through a journey of personal development, helping me move from feeling stuck in a draining career to building my own company with clarity and confidence. With her trauma-informed approach to relationship coaching, I now lead my team from a place of alignment instead of fear, fostering a culture of mental wellness.

Mark (Financial Services)

Mark (Financial Services)

Mark (Financial Services)

Through my work with Stella, I transitioned from a career that left me feeling clueless about my next steps to building a company focused on mental wellness and personal development. This journey has allowed me to align my work with who I am and my values, particularly in the realm of relationship coaching and being a trauma-informed relationship coach.

Moses (UK)

Mark (Financial Services)

Mark (Financial Services)

From feeling stuck to choosing a relationship built on shared values and cultural alignment — working with Stella, a trauma-informed relationship coach, transformed my approach to personal development and mental wellness, helping me become more decisive in my choices.

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Self-Love Isn’t Selfish - How To Prioritize Yourself As A Woman


You give. You support. You show up. And somehow, you’re always last.

If that sounds familiar, this conversation is for you. Prioritizing yourself isn’t selfish—it’s healing, necessary, and transformative.

In this women’s podcast episode, Dr. Kim R. Grimes sits down with relationship and marriage coach Stella Umutoni to explore why women carry so much guilt around self-care, self-worth, and emotional needs. They discuss how to reconnect

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