About Ikunde.Life
Ikunde is a Kinyarwanda word that means “love yourself.”
It was chosen with intention.
Ikunde exists for people who have achieved a lot in life yet feel disconnected from their worth—especially women who have learned to survive, overperform, and self-sacrifice at the cost of themselves.
At its core, Ikunde is about returning to self-respect, self-trust, and emotional safety.
While the name was chosen to empower women who have lost their sense of self-worth, Ikunde serves all genders—individuals and couples—who want healthier relationships with themselves and others.
At Ikunde, self-love is not a trend or a mantra.
It is a practice.
More about Ikunde.Life
Stella Umutoni, Founder
I’m a certified trauma-informed life and relationship coach with a background in social work and psychotherapy. I work with high-achieving women who are successful in their careers but have struggled or failed in love, relationships, or marriage.
My work sits at the intersection of the nervous system, emotional trauma, and decision-making — helping women understand not just what they feel, but how those feelings shape their relationship choices.
I bring both professional training and lived experience navigating major life transitions, including illness, betrayal, divorce, single parenting, and rebuilding life with clarity and dignity.
My approach is warm, direct, and grounded. I don’t teach women how to perform for love. I help them rebuild self-worth, regulate attachment, and create functional, peaceful, values-aligned relationships without shrinking or overgiving.
THE PROBLEMS WE SOLVE
Ikunde offers trauma-informed coaching focused on:
- Self-worth and identity
- Mindset and emotional regulation
- Relationship patterns and attachment
- Boundaries and communication
- Healing from relational and emotional trauma
This work is not about fixing people.
It’s about helping them come home to themselves.
The Vision
Ikunde was created as a reminder:
You are worthy before you heal.
You are enough while you grow.
And loving yourself is not optional—it is foundational.